Express your gratitude out loud and often. Brag to others about your caretaker.
Write out a note or card. Taking time to hand-write why you appreciate your caregiver can be very meaningful plus it gives them something with kind words they can reread in the future.
Suggest a coffee-break or cup of tea. In fact, encourage your caregiver to take breaks. Make sure they are taking time to fill their own tanks so they have the energy to take care of you.
Celebrate National Caregiver’s Month (November in the U.S.). It’s an opportunity to draw attention to the needs of all caregivers.
Show interest in the things that your caregiver is interested in. It shouldn’t only be about you.
Share jokes with each other. There is power in a good laugh. Try to do it at least once a day.
Find support services or even classes that might be right for them, or figure out a service they can use to outsource one of their regular chores.
Offer to help them with a task you know you can take on. Or, when visitors come, make the most of your time: be prepared with a short list of to-do items you need help with.
Try to temper your emotions, maybe make a conscious effort to be cheerful. Facing perpetual crankiness can be draining. Remember that your caregiver is not your therapist.
For paid help, you can give a bonus, a day off, or a quick call to their supervisor to report what a good job they do.
I love you, Dad! Happy Father’s Day and thanks for everything.
I believe that what we become depends on what our fathers teach us at odd moments, when they aren’t trying to teach us.”
A poem I wrote to my dad for Father’s Day.
Daughter of one, sister of one,
married to one, friend to many.
I will never know
how it feels to be one.
But I can thank you.
For everything you've tried
to teach me.
And all the things I've learned anyhow
from watching you.
To be kind, like who I am and strive
to be a better me today
than I was yesterday.
To be curious about new things
and trust my own research.
To let those we love
make big, spectacular mistakes
then help fix what we can
and stay out of it if we can't.
To be polite but pick my battles.
Listen and consider alternatives.
Walk (or roll!) gently on the earth.
To try to age gracefully.
Happy Father's Day, Dad. I love you, and thanks!